Life Lessons from OkCupid #1:

International Relations and Socialization:

Some people have not had the benefit of proper socialization. Instead of blocking these people right off I suggest that we face this issue head on and educate the person on the error of his/her ways. It is always nice to add a personal touch while noting opportunities for personal growth. Please choose your words carefully. Appropriate linguistics is key when dealing with other cultures. Not only does it denote an open and ambassador like nature it also ensures that your point comes across with crystal clarity while drastically lowering any chance for misunderstanding.

For example: At 12:01 Dan wrote and I quote:
DO YOU LIKE CHIN NUTZ X

At 12:03 I replied:
I'm confused...

Was that question an invitation to suck your dick or was that question meant to convey something other than your painfully apparent lack of social skills, class, judgement and grammar?
I would call you a jack ass but you're from across the pond so I'll just call you a wanker instead.
In answer to your question...well that's none of your goddamn business

happy holidays


wanker
:)

(no subject)

 I didn't know it then but I do now
and the knowledge of it is powerful.

You don't know it and even if I told you you would not believe it.  You would not believe me.

But it's true
very true
painfully true
and oh so liberating

The last time you hurt me was the Last time you hurt me.

You will no longer sell me on yourself or your projects or your ideas
You will no longer rip apart my mind, or twist my will, or torment me.
You will no longer guilt me 
I refuse to let you
I refuse to enable you
I refuse to empower  you or aid you in breaking me.

I no longer care that you didn't do the things you did on purpose
I no longer care that you didn't mean to hurt me
I no longer care that you tried your best

The fact is that you DID do those things to me
The fact is that you DID hurt me
The fact is that your best was not good enough

for either of us

and as I listen to Lena fight now
right now against her own version of you
I am cheering her on, admiring her strength, sending her courage

I had the nerve to believe that our relationship was diffrent that you and me were gonna be something.  That we had a chance where she and he didn't.  I was so arrogant so proud.  It wasn't until we talked she and me that we saw how similar we were and how much alike the two of you are.

You are hurting us
You are trying to control us 
You are trying to have us for selfish reasons

We have educated ourselves and eachother
We have admitted our addictions to you
We have committed to catharsis, to change to our own happiness as individuals

We don't need you
But we want you
to leave
us
alone.